Psychological Affiliates Inc delivers Orlando patients state of the art Psychologists services. Our experts specialize in Family Counseling, Psychology and Collaborative Divorce Psychology.
There are times when conflicts cannot be settled without a third party, but it is hard to come to the decision to settle a conflict in court. Fortunately, there is the alternative option of Orlando Family Mediation. Mediation helps resolve disputes between two or more parties without going to court. In the case of mediation, the neutral third party, which is Psychological Affiliates, facilitates the process of the two parties coming to an agreement. Family mediation may include prenuptial agreements, separation, divorce, alimony, child custody, estates, and family businesses.
There are many benefits to settling your conflict through mediation rather than court, namely time and money. While settling a conflict in court may take a minimum of months to even years, mediation could potentially take a minimum of a few hours. Due to this, the cost is also traditionally less expensive than settling a conflict in court. Another benefit to settling a conflict through mediation is control. If a conflict is settled in court, a jury or judge has the final say. If it is settled through mediation, both parties have more input on the outcome. Due to this, it is more likely that both parties will be content with the outcome rather than just one side.
Robert Bush and Joseph Folger, two pioneers of one of the approaches to mediation, wrote “Across the mediation field, mediation is generally understood as an informal process in which a neutral third party with no power to impose a resolution helps the disputing parties try to reach a mutually acceptable settlement” in their novel The Promise of Mediation (2005). They emphasized how important it is for mediators to remain unbiased through the process. Like a jury, mediators see both sides of the situation. It is unethical for them to choose one side over the other. This unbiased opinion truly helps settle the conflicts clients may be facing with the best outcome possible for both sides.
This program offers an innovative way to resolve disputes amicably without going to court by using a mental health counselor. If minor children are involved, parents tend to gravitate towards this program due to the focus it has on doing what is best for the kids. Additionally, due to Collaborative Divorce being based on the pace of the clients and not the judicial calendar, it results in a speeder finalization, which translates into financial savings as well.
The Partners with Families program is available 7 days a week, including evenings, and allows children to maintain safe contact with both parents post divorce. The purpose of this program is to create a safe environment for children by having a third person monitor those involved, as well as supervise the transfer of children from one parent to the other. It creates less conflict and stress for the parents due to them not having to communicate with their former spouse.
This program is led by licensed psychologists who are highly trained in high conflict situations, mediation and child development. It focuses on the parents communication among each other and educates them on the importance of shielding their children from parental conflict and creating any unnecessary stress for them. Through your attorney, you may request a parenting coordinator if you have concerns about your co-parent.
This program presents information about divorce procedures that promote effective coping and communication by parents and their children. A goal of the program is to lower the amount of contested custodies and visitation conflicts.
This program is for children between the ages of 8 and 12 who are dealing with their parent's divorce. Once a week (six week program), children are brought together to participate in activities with other children alike to help them cope and comfortably communicate about the topic.
For the sake of the children, divorcing parents must continue to communicate with their former spouses in matters of child rearing. Yet, approximately 20-30% of divorcing parents exhibit high conflict behaviors, creating stress for both adult and child. Research indicates that unrelenting parental conflict is the single most common cause of poor adjustment in children following a divorce.
Parent Coordination offers divorcing parents a unique service that may be used during the divorce process or years after. Parents with serious concerns regarding their co-parent may request, through their attorney, the monitoring services of a Parenting Coordinator. A Parenting Coordinator is a neutral individual working to ensure parental access and protect children from unnecessary stress.
Parenting Coordinators at Psychological Affiliates are licensed psychologists who are trained in child development, mediation, and high conflict. All Coordinators are trained through the Cooperative Parenting Institute.
In a recent interview with Slate Magazine, Esther Perel, author and therapist, brings fresh perspectives to the age-old issue of infidelity. Surveys consistently show that most marriages/long-term relationships are touched by infidelity at some point. Ms. Perel cites research showing that very often, cheaters are basically happy with their marriages or relationships. This seems to be especially true for men. Most cheaters say they really do not want to leave their relationships, yet they are willing to take risks and seriously hurt their partners and families.
Esther Perel makes some excellent points in her interview. Key among them is her observation that what cheaters really are seeking is a different self. Through an affair, a different aspect of one’s personality is brought to life, often in an overwhelmingly intense manner. This intense activation of a perhaps long suppressed or previously unrecognized persona is the real unconscious goal rather than seeking to have a different lover.
Ms. Perel also draws a distinction between cheating and non-monogamy. She suggests that “examining monogamy is our next frontier.” Instead of the old roles of cheater and the cheated-upon, new relationship models are needed which can demonstrate how to respectfully handle the shades of grey around the many sexual/intimacy/friendship/digital issues that affect modern relationships.
Many couples still agree that sexual monogamy is their ideal. For these couples, a therapist can help impart and sharpen skills such as conflict resolution, caring behaviors, prioritization, and sexual enrichment. A therapist also can offer craving management to help relationships withstand challenges. For couples dealing with the aftermath of infidelity, a specific problem may need to be addressed, such as sexual avoidance or sexual addiction.
Other couples may mutually agree to explore more autonomy, self-expression, or personal fulfillment rather than cheating or lying to one another. Even an unconventional arrangement, such as swinging, requires relationship boundaries and expectations for both partners.
A qualified sex therapist can work within a couple’s value system to help improve their shared sexual satisfaction. Having the courage to address such delicate topics is a start. A therapist can help couples build upon that beginning by having both partners clarify their priorities and cultivate acceptance of one another.
Provided by Alan Grieco, Ph.D.