Psychology Orlando

Psychological Affiliates Inc delivers Orlando patients state of the art Psychologists services. Our experts specialize in Family Counseling, Psychology and Collaborative Divorce Psychology.

Why We Cheat

Deborah O. Day, Psy.D - Thursday, April 03, 2014

In a recent interview with Slate Magazine, Esther Perel, author and therapist, brings fresh perspectives to the age-old issue of infidelity. Surveys consistently show that most marriages/long-term relationships are touched by infidelity at some point. Ms. Perel cites research showing that very often, cheaters are basically happy with their marriages or relationships. This seems to be especially true for men. Most cheaters say they really do not want to leave their relationships, yet they are willing to take risks and seriously hurt their partners and families.

 

Esther Perel makes some excellent points in her interview. Key among them is her observation that what cheaters really are seeking is a different self. Through an affair, a different aspect of one’s personality is brought to life, often in an overwhelmingly intense manner. This intense activation of a perhaps long suppressed or previously unrecognized persona is the real unconscious goal rather than seeking to have a different lover.

 

Ms. Perel also draws a distinction between cheating and non-monogamy. She suggests that “examining monogamy is our next frontier.” Instead of the old roles of cheater and the cheated-upon, new relationship models are needed which can demonstrate how to respectfully handle the shades of grey around the many sexual/intimacy/friendship/digital issues that affect modern relationships.

 

Many couples still agree that sexual monogamy is their ideal. For these couples, a therapist can help impart and sharpen skills such as conflict resolution, caring behaviors, prioritization, and sexual enrichment. A therapist also can offer craving management to help relationships withstand challenges. For couples dealing with the aftermath of infidelity, a specific problem may need to be addressed, such as sexual avoidance or sexual addiction.

 

Other couples may mutually agree to explore more autonomy, self-expression, or personal fulfillment rather than cheating or lying to one another. Even an unconventional arrangement, such as swinging, requires relationship boundaries and expectations for both partners.

 

A qualified sex therapist can work within a couple’s value system to help improve their shared sexual satisfaction. Having the courage to address such delicate topics is a start. A therapist can help couples build upon that beginning by having both partners clarify their priorities and cultivate acceptance of one another.

 

Provided by Alan Grieco, Ph.D.

 | Trackbacks (0) | Permalink

What to Expect in Relationship Therapy

Deborah O. Day, Psy.D - Thursday, November 07, 2013

These days, before many couples decide to call it quits, they undergo couple’s therapy or marriage counseling. In general, no one is excited about the prospect of sitting on a psychologist’s couch and detailing all the problems within a marriage, however, plenty of couples have found relief from their relationship woes by seeking the help of a professional. It is always useful, before jumping into any kind of therapy, to have some idea of what is going to happen.

 

Most psychologists will ask questions, listening to responses of both spouses, in order to get at the heart of the couple’s problems. For example, a couple may come in saying that they no longer feel the other loves them. Through some pointed questions, a psychologist may determine that they are actually having a problem with communication, not with love.

 

Even for couples that have already decided to get a divorce, relationship therapy may be advantageous. A therapist will be able to help them navigate their new dynamic, so that they can at least be on friendly terms, especially in cases where the couple shares a child.


In either case, the psychologist will ask questions about the relationship and will suggest topics for discussion and activities that can better the couple’s relationship, whether that couple is still married or is newly divorced.

 | Trackbacks (0) | Permalink


Recent Posts


Tags

one another sex agree settlement family psychotherapy friends lawyers satisfaction scientists mediator persona attorney property love Orlando Neuropsychological evaluations expectation abuse loves couples counseling dealing with stress caring neurological abnormality discussion another family mediation mediators molestation relationships Orlando psychologists risks relationship woes boundary consultants life event state of mind Orlando mediators relationship boundaries separation accept questions personal fulfillment mediates without bias Orlando neuropsychologist alimony problem neuroanatomy Neuropsychology repressed co-parenting therapy modern relationship sexual conflict beginning therapist's roles relationship problems spouse swingers learning and growth post traumatic stress disorder sex offender time-sharing unsettling cheated learning mental illness divorcing suffering address phobia specific problem develop masturbation unsettling life event disputes marriage counseling therapy self-expression communication problem Orlando Family Mediation delicate influential leave behavior parent coordination deal trial emotions children phobias divorce education orlando better the relationship studies hypnotherapy talk therapy unconscious withstand challenges delicate topics personality marriage counseling orlando fl respectfully family judge parents qualified therapist prioritization medical paternity improve delicate topic mental health partners cheated-upon Orlando mediation marriage problems divided adjustment unconventional PTSD swing consult child abuse monitored exchange anxiety fault suppression sexual satisfaction psychotherapy family counseling orlando Orlando supervised visitation advantageous disorder unconventional arrangement aftermath doctor Parenting Coordination Program Cooperative Parenting Institute digital spouses contested custodies families lying access repressed thoughts loved anxious healthy habits medicine substance abuse sexual enrichment prenuptial agreements therapists in orlando buried memories help qualified sex therapist mental states live apart foundation stress topics for discussion overeating Orlando therapists marriage sex therapy orlando counseling relationship therapy determine healing self collaborative law scientist newly divorced psychological child psychologist orlando psychometrist couples Orlando psychotherapy assess sex therapist shades of grey psychologists orlando psychology adult parent courage attorneys dynamic cheater navigate mediation litigation partner sex offender therapy mental health counselor access divorce qualified social pragmatic communication disorder autonomy child multiple personality disorder friendship sexual avoidance family therapy sexual behavioral problems talking points orlando sex therapy law enforcement specialists expectations troubled struggling child undergo hypnosis negotiations before the divorce techniques sleep disorder habit messy divorce mental examination divorce trial parenting plan not his fault clarify priorities craving management mind alternative medicine better child custody law enforcement consultants dealing with anxiety consultation non-monogamy act out legal acceptance The Florida Bar improve sexual satisfaction success communication listening monetary value cheating lover brain Orlando sex offender therapy couple's therapy child development forensic psychological evaluations addiction help relationships married marry neuropsychologists intimacy trauma valued psychosexual evaluations struggling repression divorce coaches bias towards psychologists psychologists in orlando divided loyalties class orlando modern relationships sex therapy neuropsychological evaluations orientation confusion Orlando parenting plan evaluations overeating habits habits sex offender therapist grief relocation disputes mismatched sex drives therapist modification friendly terms Competency Restoration Training smoking cessation evaluate court psychology orlando mental state clarify family counseling procedure intense treatment swinger anti-anxiety value system parenting plans psychological evaluations acting out dynamics arrangement heart mess of a divorce mental health services Orlando psychologist bias swinging marriage troubles challenges Orlando hypnotherapy reassurance conflict resolution relaxation estates repressed memories suppressed different self respect appropriate ways deserves influence disorders values relief stress-relieving development sadness sleep disorders couple's problems effective communication problems affair behaviors caring behaviors thoughts addressed infidelity withdraw child's mental state evaluation boundaries forensic psychology expression smoking tools behavior modification malicious divorce improving out of court assessment Orlando collaborative divorce help relationship partner violence Parenting Coordinator growth psychotherapist licensed psychologist priorities litigation support call it quits undergo treatments sexual monogamy psychotherapy orlando depression needs neurodevelopmental disorders hypnosis ideal psychiatric support withstand sexual trauma psychological evaluation hopeless infidelity aftermath Orlando family mediator psychologist courts activities politicians relationship models agreement long-term relationship repressed thoughts developments memories fulfillment sexual addiction neuropsychologist issues professional collaborative divorce

Archive

2737 West Fairbanks Avenue,  Winter Park, FL. 32789    Phone: 407-674-5663

 

©2011 Psychological Affiliates - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Developed - Design by Windermere Design