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Why We Cheat

Deborah O. Day, Psy.D - Thursday, April 03, 2014

In a recent interview with Slate Magazine, Esther Perel, author and therapist, brings fresh perspectives to the age-old issue of infidelity. Surveys consistently show that most marriages/long-term relationships are touched by infidelity at some point. Ms. Perel cites research showing that very often, cheaters are basically happy with their marriages or relationships. This seems to be especially true for men. Most cheaters say they really do not want to leave their relationships, yet they are willing to take risks and seriously hurt their partners and families.


Esther Perel makes some excellent points in her interview. Key among them is her observation that what cheaters really are seeking is a different self. Through an affair, a different aspect of one’s personality is brought to life, often in an overwhelmingly intense manner. This intense activation of a perhaps long suppressed or previously unrecognized persona is the real unconscious goal rather than seeking to have a different lover.


Ms. Perel also draws a distinction between cheating and non-monogamy. She suggests that “examining monogamy is our next frontier.” Instead of the old roles of cheater and the cheated-upon, new relationship models are needed which can demonstrate how to respectfully handle the shades of grey around the many sexual/intimacy/friendship/digital issues that affect modern relationships.


Many couples still agree that sexual monogamy is their ideal. For these couples, a therapist can help impart and sharpen skills such as conflict resolution, caring behaviors, prioritization, and sexual enrichment. A therapist also can offer craving management to help relationships withstand challenges. For couples dealing with the aftermath of infidelity, a specific problem may need to be addressed, such as sexual avoidance or sexual addiction.


Other couples may mutually agree to explore more autonomy, self-expression, or personal fulfillment rather than cheating or lying to one another. Even an unconventional arrangement, such as swinging, requires relationship boundaries and expectations for both partners.


A qualified sex therapist can work within a couple’s value system to help improve their shared sexual satisfaction. Having the courage to address such delicate topics is a start. A therapist can help couples build upon that beginning by having both partners clarify their priorities and cultivate acceptance of one another.


Provided by Alan Grieco, Ph.D.

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Orlando Psychology

Deborah O. Day, Psy.D - Thursday, January 09, 2014

For many individuals, making the decision to seek psychological counseling is a fairly difficult step to take. Requiring not only honesty in admitting that one is in need of help and guidance, there is a tremendous amount of bravery needed in order to follow through with seeking this guidance out. While it is difficult for some of us to internally come to these terms, sharing them with others can be far more unsettling. When seeking out psychological counseling services, the experienced hesitation and unease are very natural, human emotions; especially when dealing with matters involving family and loved ones.

Whether you are looking for a family counselor, collaborative divorce counselor, child psychologist, marriage counselor, sex therapist, or any other kind of psychotherapist, the process of picking one that is right for you can be tricky.  However, if you live in, or near Central Florida, you may consider your search to be over. The licensed psychologists at Psychological Affiliates, Inc., located in Winter Park, offer all of these services and more under a single roof. Exceeding 25 years of combined experience in counseling, these Orlando therapists are more than equipped to help you and your family piece your puzzle-in-question back together.

From couples to divorces, sexual partners to sexual offenders, individuals to families, the counselors at Psychological Affiliates have the understanding, empathy, compassion and professional know-how to assist you and your family in a manner that is not only effective, but is nurturing and knowledgeable.

The doctors at Psychological Affiliates specialize in certain areas, and the nature of your sessions will determine which therapist you shall see.

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What to Expect in Relationship Therapy

Deborah O. Day, Psy.D - Thursday, November 07, 2013

These days, before many couples decide to call it quits, they undergo couple’s therapy or marriage counseling. In general, no one is excited about the prospect of sitting on a psychologist’s couch and detailing all the problems within a marriage, however, plenty of couples have found relief from their relationship woes by seeking the help of a professional. It is always useful, before jumping into any kind of therapy, to have some idea of what is going to happen.


Most psychologists will ask questions, listening to responses of both spouses, in order to get at the heart of the couple’s problems. For example, a couple may come in saying that they no longer feel the other loves them. Through some pointed questions, a psychologist may determine that they are actually having a problem with communication, not with love.


Even for couples that have already decided to get a divorce, relationship therapy may be advantageous. A therapist will be able to help them navigate their new dynamic, so that they can at least be on friendly terms, especially in cases where the couple shares a child.

In either case, the psychologist will ask questions about the relationship and will suggest topics for discussion and activities that can better the couple’s relationship, whether that couple is still married or is newly divorced.

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