‘Tis the season to be jolly! Or at least that is what the song says, but in reality sometimes it feels more like ‘tis the season to binge watch cheesy-made-for-TV-romantic-comedy movies that makes us feel less lonely, or the season for eating our weight in holiday treats because it helps ward off the stress of your in-laws staying with you for the first time! Whatever the reason for the season, one thing is for sure, this year certainly will not make the holidays any more jolly.
Many individuals can become quickly overwhelmed during the holiday season and if there is one thing we have learned this year, it is that self-care should come first. No one wants to be stressed and/ or depressed during the holidays and miss out on all the wonderful things life has to offer this time of year! And while the daily demands slowly get overshadowed by the looming holiday errands and chores that must get done, do not forget that there is still the ever lingering presence of a global disease waiting just around the corner.
On that cheerful note, here are so tips for coping with the holidays and getting your mental health back on track.
• Reach out. Especially if you live alone, it is important to find connections with others-even if those others are plants and animals- to have contact with. This year has brought so much change, while we may be literally separated from loved ones, there are so many forms of communication we can take to bridge that connection. Support and companionship are vital especially in winter months where darkness can make anyone feel even more alone and isolated.
• Recognize your feelings. It is okay to cry! It lets all the boo-hoo’s out. Seriously, one good ugly cry session, where you come out puffy eyed and your nose is all stuffed up the next morning. It can do wonders. It is not normal to be happy all of the time, and even if it is expected of you, it is okay to not be okay. Even talking about your sadness helps to release its hold on you.
• Not everything has to be perfect. We all secretly long for that one special holiday season that resembles something that could be played up on the silver screen. However, reality forces us to realize that the even the most favorite traditions of our youth, change and grow over the years as families also mature and expand. Be open to new traditions and festivities, because the most important things are those often not wrapped.
• Most families have one thing in common: arguing. Not everyone holds the same ideas and views as others in families and that is okay. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, however, family gatherings are hardly a time to squabble, especially if you only get to see you family a few times a year. Try setting aside differences for the time being and simply enjoy the presence of family. And remember it is okay to say No, even to family, especially if it is your house they are staying in.
• Stick to a budget. The holidays can put us in a position of giving to the point where we have nothing left to give. Make sure finances are secure by setting a budget on gifts alongside your monthly budget as well.
• Don’t let holiday treats distract you. Make sure you are not abandoning your healthy habits, and enjoying treats in moderation.
• Make lists to help plan ahead. By having some control over your time management, this can help eliminate last minute scrambling and forgetting any important gifts.
Wow, No wonder you may get stressed out around this time of year. If you are in need of something to talk to, and are looking for help with
psychology in Orlando, than Psychological Affiliates can help.